Every couple who plans to get married, be it from the ROM stage onwards or just the customary wedding or any wedding and ceremony, needs to embark on their own "PhD" journey.
"PhD" in Bridal Administration.
Of course there is no such doctorate but what I am trying to say here is, every couple will have conduct their own research of finding themselves a good bridal studio, hotel/restaurant, photographer, videographer, mani-pedicurist, bridal car and blah blah blah and the list goes on.
Cat has done a lot on this research and basically we have worked together closely on this so far so good. She does the research mostly wheareas I will breakdown and analyse each options that Cat presented. Of course, for each analysis, I will have to explain in detail to Cat. The final decision will be made after thorough discussion among ourselves. Sometimes, these decisions were made at special places such as makan places, quiet places, drinking places and......think of it like your company retreat. (No overseas trip. We are not so extreme.)
The "experiments" of our "doctorate programme", are the numerous appointments we made with hotels, restaurants and BS. Not easy here and it is a very tiring process. These appointments were made once our analysis and decisions (earlier reserach stages) were made to give these places a visit to see see and look look and to compare perks.
Now, at this stage, whether a couple "can make it or not", depends on the line-ups the couple wishes to adopt......with or without planning initially. Consciously or unconsciously.
For our case, I came up with a plan based on our individual strengths and weaknesses.
In short, Cat chiongs the frontline, the striker of a football match. Rifle company.
Me, the backend. The defender of a football match. The ball sweeper. Support company.
For those who knows us as a couple, you will know why. I don't have to elaborate here. As I thought and planned, we worked very well.
Our common goal: to combine power and overpower the coordinators we will be facing [at that time].
The important point I want to convey here to those who are currently planning for their weddings is that, know each of your other half's strengths and weaknesses. Put them at the right place for the right use. If you still do not know them, you can get to know them better as you go along, by "testing" out with whatever knowledge you think you have about each other. (This may be true to those who just known each other for a year or so.)
Through our own process, I finally knew the true meaning of "it takes two hands to clap". To compensate for one another's cons. To support what the other half is lacking.
Just like a camera and a tripod.
If this kind of planning is done and implemented (or tested), it will be very fun and enjoyable for every trip to appointments together...getting down there and "dirty" together. Sharing every moments of joy and worry. You'll be happy.
Why am I recommending this strategy?
Cos' I enjoyed mine with Cat. Truly. :)
